Things I learned at 28
A time I can distinctly recall as being challenging was my 28th year. I remember feeling a strong urgency to get as much of my sh*t together as possible so I wouldn’t feel the lore of life shock that supposedly comes when you enter your 30’s. At the same time, I was so eager to get out of my 20’s. They were hard! I had a baby, got married, got divorced, my mom passed. I had lived several decades of life in less than one and I felt like my 30’s would be much more promising than the current chapter I was eager to close. In conjunction to this, I was conscious of the reality that this is how my 20’s would end; I was living it. Which made me more intentionally about gathering all the gems I could on my way out.
Here are some things I learned at 28.
“Sometimes your rock bottom is your trampoline.” -Kim Fields
This is the youngest & oldest you will ever be.
My tongue can be a bit sharp sometimes. *I already knew this but my awareness around it has grown.*
People will hurt you, you will have to deal with that hurt. And you learn the people to deal with and the people who will hurt you.
Disappear, the people who know you and love you will be there when you return.
Not every journey is meant for everyone
Find the people who get you, who you don’t have to translate yourself to.
Bend towards the love.
There is so much to be learned and let go of in darkness and remember that isn’t a place you have to live, but it is a place you must become familiar with.
Allow people to show up for you.
You don’t have to do it all by yourself and alone.
Listen to the children around you. Especially your child.
Be yourself, fully, whole. With ZERO regard for how anyone else chooses to deal with that. That isn’t your business.
If they are not f**kin, feedin, or financing you, their opinion is obsolete and should be taken with the smallest grain of salt.
THIS IS YOUR LIFE. LIVE IT FOR YOU. It is only you on your deathbed and it’s your choice to be full of regrets or memories.
Do not take criticism from someone you wouldn’t take advice from.
No one else is you. THAT is your superpower. Trust it.
What is for me, will not miss me.
You can lose everyone else around you, just don’t lose yourself.
There is a difference between having something to say and having something others need to hear.
Do NOT chase anything or anyone. Let what is going go.
What is coming is better than what has gone.
You are like fine wine. You will only become better and more refined in taste the older you get.
ALLOW PEOPLE TO HELP YOU. There is no trophy for being superwoman.
Your birthchart is YOUR blueprint. Study it, and also just live. So much serendipity is in the space in between.
Discernment is in the book of virtues.
Suitability is more important than compatibility.
Not everything you go after will work out. That is no excuse to not go after anything.
Crying should be as easy as breathing. And sometimes you have to practice crying until you feel release(d).
Your spirit animal is most likely a butterfly.
Art = Life
Wing it. Things have no choice but to work out.
You are a natural outlier, embrace it.
Believe someone when they show you the first time how they feel about you.
Don’t negotiate your requirements.
Lower your expectations and raise your tolerance.
Some people do not want to reach across. They will only see you as valuable if they see something they can reach up to. This should not change how you move and create. Just be aware and respond accordingly.
Stay in your lane, explore your lane. Stop and smell the roses. Take your time. Know that all that is destined for you is yours and already on your path.
Enjoy your life AND use discernment.
Scabs allow for healing to alchemize beneath. Don’t pick at the scab.
DON’T allow your human mind to question what your divine intuition has already stated.
If you feel impacted and changed by the experiences you have, THAT is living. That is life.
Sometimes you’re moving so fast that you literally pass up your abundance. Slow down - a message from a sistafren
Compromise should not be at the expense of yourself.
Allow people to show you who they are.
If I have to force it, or contort my being to align with it, it isn’t for me. That is okay.
Flow slow.
Slow down. Sometimes you move so fast that you pass up your abundance. *guess I needed this one twice
Listen to your body, it will tell you EVERYTHING.
Your teeth are SUPER IMPORTANT. Take care of them.
Honor yourself.